OK, Ladies! It might sound funny but Post-Wedding Depression is something that really does exist. I’ve seen it happen more than a few times and it’s heartbreaking to watch brides go from such a high to such a low once the wedding is over. So, I wanted to take a moment to share my advice on how to avoid it.
Imagine This: 12 months of planning; Phone calls, cake tastings, shopping, assembling favors, taking engagement photos, picking out flowers, writing your vows, and working your little heart out in your every spare moment to get every little detail in place. Then; Bachelorette Party, Bridal Showers, Gift Registries ~ the big spotlight on you. And Finally; The day arrives. Everyone is there to see you in all your beauty. This is the day you’ve dreamed of, the day you will marry your soul mate in front of all of your family and friends ~ all eyes are on the bride. All of this and then the big celebration that follows! Your first dance, the speeches given with love, cutting cake, being the center of your own blissful universe where everyone is focused on you! And at the end of the evening, you are whisked away to your first romantic night together as a married couple! Then…..
Then: You wake up the next morning and there are dishes in the sink, laundry needs to be done, dinner needs to be cooked and you and your husband are…well…the same as you were before but you now share a last name.
Or: You pack your bags, board a flight, or hop in the car and take off to a destination where it’s just the two of you, being pampered, enjoying time together, basking in the sunshine, cocktail in hand! You’ll talk about your future plans and reflect on your special day. You’re excited knowing that when you get home there will be notes of congratulations, gifts to open, people to fill in on the details of your honeymoon and incredible photos to look at. Sure, the daily chores will still be there but they’ll be interspersed with the lingerings of mementos from your big day and fun! This is the way to do it!
Jumping right back into the reality of life after being on such an incredible high is exactly the cause of Post-Wedding Depression. Girls, you NEED to take a honeymoon! It doesn’t matter if you drive down the coast for a week, hotel hop in places you’ve always wanted to visit, fly away to a warm sandy beach or get a cozy little cabin in the woods where you can watch the stars together at night. You need this time to ease yourself back into the reality of life. After all, things are going to be different now than they have been for the past 12 months. What do you do when there’s nothing left to do anymore?
Skipping the honeymoon is not an option in my book. Couples sometimes skip the honeymoon, either because they plan to do it later or they just fore-go it all together because of finances and it truly can cause a massive crash and burn. So, make sure you’ve set a little money aside to take the time you need to ease back into normal life and avoid the Post-Wedding Blues!